Why women that falsely accuse men of rape should go to jail too: "Really Talkin'"

"You see this? It's gettin' stupid now bruh!"

Charles Spurgeon, the 19^th century British Baptist preacher, once said, “A lie can travel half way around the world while the truth is putting on it shoes.” Denis Diderot, the 18^th century French philosopher, spit something that stopped traffic and even caused a few accidents along the way when he said, “We swallow greedily any lie that flatters us, but we sip only little by little at a truth we find bitter.” Then Roger Ebert broke it down so that it would forever be broken when he said, “Your intellect may be confused, but your emotions will never lie to you.”

Well playas…the lawyer for the woman that has accused Chicago Blackhawks star Patrick Kane of sexual assault was not confused by his intellect and his emotions told him to bounce. He abruptly told boyz on Thursday night that he’s outta this joint. Thomas Eoannou held a press conference later in the evening to tell the world that he doesn’t feel comfortable with the way ole girl’s (the alleged victim) mother explained to him how the alleged rape kit showed up at her crib. In other words, playboy, he felt like they were runnin’ game and he wasn’t gonna get caught up in some foolishness and tarnish his good name or legal reputation. In hood terms he told them to go head on with that foolishness bruh!

Let’s keep it real or all the way 100, whichever comes 1^st! If Patrick Kane was accused of rape more than a month ago and he has yet to be charged with a crime you gotta start lookin’ sideways at the accusation. Now it looks like ole girl’s mom has gotten desperate enough to make up some foolishness to escalate the process. However, it looks like it’s backfired and blown up in their faces.

On some real talk, rape is one of the most violent crimes that can be committed on any human being and if someone is guilty of that type of foolishness they should be thrown in jail with the quickness and tortured. A boy gets no love or sympathy for committin’ that type of crime. None!!!!

However, any woman that falsely accuses a boy of rape should be thrown in jail for the same time that the accused would have faced if convicted. Now for all of you simple minded individuals that wanna act like women don’t do it let me put it where the goats can get and throw you a couple of examples that you’ve looked right past.

Last football season a true freshman quarterback named Treon Harris at the University of Florida was accused of raping a student on a Sunday and was kicked off of the team and out of school by Monday only to be reinstated to school and the team by freakin’ Friday because ole girl told the truth. Not only did they have sex but they found out that she was the aggressor in the sexual situation and she knocked off his boy, another teammate, too accordin’ to his attorney.

However, when the truth came out everybody and their baby’s momma’s momma acted like the situation never happened.

"Tell me about playa!"

Oh, do you remember a dun named Jameis Winston that won a Heisman Trophy down at Florida State? Yeah, he was accused of sexual assault but was NEVER arrested or charged with a crime simply because there wasn’t any evidence to suggest that he’d actually committed a crime. The university used the same facts that the police and prosecutor’s office used and couldn’t find him guilty of violatin’ even the school’s conduct policy.

Now all of you duns that don’t like him refuse to believe that he was innocent simply because you of person bias. Well...the law doesn't care about you likin' a dun or not. I’m the only cat that I know of in the media that even took the time to read the entire 86-page report that was full of eye witness testimonies and sworn affidavits from the accuser as well. The alleged victim’s story changed so many times within the investigation that it made me dizzy.

Ole girl was tellin’ boyz that she was incoherent when the toxicology reports said that she wasn’t drunk at all. She told a boy that somebody slipped something in her drink and the toxicology report refuted that claim as well. She even went so far as to say that somebody hit her in the head and knocked her out when the results of the tests on the skull showed no blunt force trauma etc. To hear my entire take on the Jameis Winston foolishness check out my rant entitled "(Video) The Truth is in the Details: Jameis Winston (Separatin' the truth from the lies)."

Now we’ve got the alleged victim’s momma in this Kane case tryin’ to run game on her own attorney and ole boy was not havin’ it. It’s shameful because sexual assault is such a violent crime and it should always be taken seriously. When duns like this mistreat the system it makes it hard for the women that were actually sexually assaulted to be taken seriously.

Therefore, ANY woman found to be lyin’ about bein’ raped should go to jail no ifs, ands or butts about it for the same time that the accused would have gotten if convicted. Why? Because you’ve forever ruined the reputations of the men that were accused of this foolishness. Every time someone Googles Treon Harris, Jameis Winston or Patrick Kane or any other dun for that matter, for the rest of their lives sexual assault will pop up. Now cats like Winston and Kane may be alright because they’ve already made millions and if they’re smart with their bread they may not ever need to apply for a job where people don’t already know who they are.

However, a cat like Treon Harris may not go to the NFL after he finishes his career at Florida. So when he applies for a job and the potential employer Googles him, sexual assault is goin’ to pop up. The truth will be on the second or third page of the Google search that nobody will ever read. Their just goin’ to throw his resume in the trash and keep it movin’! Therefore, if his life is ruined by this foolishness then her life should be ruined too. If, and only if, that starts to happen these chicks will stop pullin’ stunts like this. Like Denis said earlier in the joint, “We swallow greedily any lie that flatters us, but we sip only little by little at a truth we find bitter.” I’m just sayin’ and stop me when I start lyin’!

Playas Thesaurus:  
1) Spit: verb – to say
2) Ole girl: noun – the female in question in that paragraph play
3) Dun: noun – the person in question, dude, guy, etc. It’s whoever I’m talkin’ about and its non-gender specific.
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Game Tight (Why white girls have more game than sistas at swoopin'black pro athletes)

"Got game? We do!"

If you want to get black women fired up bring up the topic of why black athletes date or marry white women. For years I've just sat in the cut and watched the whole scenario play out. As a student-athlete for a short period of time some 28 years ago at Purdue University (football walk-on spring 1987), I watched as many of my teammates went through school and some were eventually drafted and left with white women. Even after I transferred to Indiana University I watched it play out the same way playa. 

Now accordin' to the sisters, they’ll say that these guys always wait until they get rich and go get a white girl. Well…ladies that isn’t the case at all. Quite frankly, white girls have simply got more game than sisters when it comes to sniffin' bread before the bread is even made.

Let's keep it real or all the way 100, whichever comes 1st! If you don't believe me sit back and I’ll run the game to you. For the sake of this discussion we'll call the white girl "Becky" and we'll call the sister "Lynnette". A five star recruit named "Elijah" enrolls as a freshmen still wet behind the ears and doesn't know anybody. As he's walkin' to class for the first time, he see's Lynnette and speaks to her just bein' friendly. She completely ignores him and keeps walkin' because she thinks he’s tryin' to holler at her. As he continues on down the street he runs into Becky and speaks to her the same way he spoke to Lynnette. However, Becky speaks and holds an entire conversation with him as they walk to class together.

Some time goes by and Becky see's that he's havin' trouble jugglin' both class and football so she offers to help him write his papers. Lynnette is witnessing the same thing but her response is "I've got my own thing to worry about." That's completely understandable but I'm just tellin' the story playboy.

Over time Becky notices that Elijah doesn't have time between football and school to wash his clothes on the weekends. So she volunteers to do his laundry for him. Lynnette says, "Why should I do his laundry, nobody is goin' to help me with mine?" Becky is also buyin' snacks when the cafe is closed as well. Don't get mad at me, again I'm just tellin' you what I‘ve seen happen playa.

A couple of years go by and Elijah and Becky become a solid couple. Now remember he's been flyin' under the radar because durin' his freshman year he didn't play because he was red shirted (practice squad) and Lynnette still doesn‘t know his name. Durin' his sophomore year he finally get’s on the field. However, by his junior year, he's a stud and is all over ESPN’s Sports Center and sports talk radio at this point. Now all of the draft experts are talkin' about him goin' in the first round of the upcomin' NFL draft.

Now all of a sudden he catches Lynnette's eye but she's late to the party because Becky's been puttin' in work for 3 years. He decides to leave school early because the money is too good to pass up. So on draft day he's sittin' in the green room waitin' for his name to be called and guess who’s with his family? Becky! The same Becky that helped write his papers, do his laundry, put gas in his car, buy him pizza after the games and oh yeah, spoke to him on campus when nobody knew his name three short years ago.

"Oh, he ain't lyin' to you bruh!"

What’s the lesson in this ladies? Always look for the potential in the young cat and not put him in the dumb jock category and ignore him when he speaks. Lynnette, if you had just said hello who knows where that friendship could’ve gone. Keep in mind that 90% of the Elijah's on campus are from the same neighborhood you're from. So they are more comfortable talkin' to you than Becky, initially.

You let Becky in the game not Elijah. He could've cared less what color she was. He just wanted someone to believe in him and take an interest in his potential. Stop waitin' until the forth quarter to try to make a come back when you’re down 3 touchdowns with 1:30 left. Is this the case in every situation? No, but I can tell you that this is how the game is kicked off 90 percent of the time on college campuses. Of course you've got duns that know how to kick game once a boy is already rich too. Ole girl swooped up Jordan, married him and knocked out twins with the quickness for security purposes bruh! I know y'all saw that power move? She doesn't need the whole billion playboy. She just needs a piece of it. I'm just sayin'!

At the end of the day Becky keeps dancin' in the end zone and Lynnette keeps havin' to buy a ticket to the game after it’s already started. I know that money is sexy but potential is even more intoxicatin'! Now… was Becky runnin' game too? I’m quite sure she was! Now what's my point sistas? Don't have the nerve to get mad every time you see a rich brother that plays or played ball with a white girl and you cared NOT to know his name when he was broke! Because 9 out of 10 times she peeped game when you didn't.

See every sista wants to be Michelle Obama but don't wanna do what she did! She got with Barack when he was the freakin' intern at her office playa. She didn't wait to see if he was gonna be president. She saw his potential not his bread. Now she's the First Lady! There are a lot of women out here that can learn something from Michelle Obama instead of lookin' for things to critize her about. I'm just sayin'. Stop me when I start lyin'!

Playa-saurus:
1) Dun: noun - the person in question, dude, guy, girl. etc. It's whoever I'm talkin' about bruh and it's non-gender specific.
2) Peeped game: verb - to see something that others can't see.

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Burnin' Sands (The REAL Reason Why Pro Athletes Shouldn't Get Married)

 

"Only the chosen few can cross these joints and survive!"

Nicole Scherzinger once said, "Confidence comes with maturity, being more accepting of yourself." Calvin Coolidge broke it down like this, "Knowledge comes, but wisdom lingers. It may not be difficult to store up in the mind a vast quantity of facts within a comparatively short time, but the ability to form judgments requires the severe discipline of hard work and the tempering heat of experience and maturity." Then Tom Stoppard shut the building down with, "Age is a very high price to pay for maturity."

“Young, Rich and Dangerous” was the title of the last CD of my 'lil homies, Kriss Kross, in 1996. It should however, be the soundtrack of the lives of these young rich ball players that think they're ready to get married. Check this out, you’re a 25 year old professional athlete and you’ve just signed a brand new 5 year deal worth more than 80 million dollars. The “Young and Rich” part you get, but “Dangerous” you don’t agree with, right?

Let me put it where the goats can get it playa. See, you’re not the one that’s necessarily dangerous, however the world that you’ve just been thrown into is. Look into my crystal ball young dun because you still can’t wrap your mind around just how much $80 million is, but you have a pretty good idea of what you can do with it. Just about anything you’ve ever wanted to do right?

Let me put somthin' on ya head bruh! See money is like alcohol playboy, it doesn’t change you, it just brings out what’s already inside of you. In 2007 B.M., that’s “Before Money”, you were the big man on campus (BMOC) with a girlfriend. However, the coeds just kept finding their way into your dorm room uninvited and you weren't stoppin' them from gettin' in. That’s what happens when you’re the most popular guy on campus. Now that you’ve got the money and fame the campus just got bigger bruh. You travel from coast to coast playin' ball and in every night club you hit, every guy in the joint wants to BE you and every woman in the joint wants BE WITH YOU.

 That’s a drug all to itself and it’s easy to overdose on that combination. Now I’m not saying that all men cheat, what I am saying is that all men are human. So if you’re away from home 30 out of the 52 weeks in a year for sometimes weeks at a time, with women doin' everything they can to get at you, that becomes way more than a young thunder cat can handle. I’m not talkin' about your everyday women. Naw playboy, I’m talkin' about cosmetic 10’s, the movie star types that follow you around like a puppy throwin' it at a boy.

See we can’t compare a pro athlete to the normal workin' class cat. See the normal dun has to typically initiate contact with a woman. So he has to at least be mischievous enough to play with the matches to start a fire. With a pro ball player… he’s runnin' through the forest with gasoline draws on while it’s already burnin'. Women are constantly followin' these cats from city to city and many times even makin' their way into hotel rooms uninvited. Sound familiar? Now I’m not sayin' that all women are groupies but I am sayin' that all of the women that are constantly in your face are. A young thunder cat sayin' he's gettin' married and bein' on the road is like a boy bein' a drug addict and sayin' that he's goin' over to the drug house just to play dominos.

Let’s face it pimpin', some lifestyles aren’t conducive to havin' monogamous relationships and bein' a young ball player is one of them. I don’t care if she was your college or high school sweetheart. When you guys met you were broke and women weren’t showin' up at all hours of the night uninvited and undressed.

Let’s keep it real or all the way 100, whichever comes 1st! The woman that you decide to marry knows full well that she isn’t the only one, especially if you're 25 with a gang of bread. So who’s foolin' who, especially if she met you in 2014 A.M., that’s “After Money”. She's chasin' bread like the groupies are chasin' you.

 Even if you think that you love her you aren’t mature enough to handle what’s comin' your way on a daily basis. I just think that you should wait until after you retire when you’re settled enough to be someone’s husband. Your lifestyle will have changed by then and you won’t be in the hot spots all over the country, nightly. By the time you’re in your late 30’s or early 40’s you’ll be ready bruh.

There’s no rule to say that you have to marry young i.e. Tiger, Kobe etc. You’ll also meet women that should be well into their careers by then… ladies that have more to lose than some young groupie tryin' to get pregnant and paid at your expense. Now don’t it twisted, it’s some old groupies out there too but when you’re older you’ll at least be able to recognize the game. That will keep you from gettin' caught up at the minimum.

I strongly believe in the full sanctity of marriage because I've been in the game for twelve years and it should never be disrespected. So before you try to join my frat and cross these burnin' sands my brother think long and hard about what you're doin'. You’ll have to get rid of all the girlfriends and be able to keep your butt at home! And that's the edited version. However, in the mist of being a professional athlete that’s virtually impossible. So your application has been denied and stop me when I start lyin' bruh!

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Fire Starters (Why neither Kobe nor Stephen A. Smith have a clue)

"I'm talkin' to be talkin' right now bruh!"

Buddha once said, “Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon and the truth.” Albert Einstein broke it down like this, “Anyone who doesn’t take truth seriously in small matters cannot be trusted in large ones either.” Then Winston Churchill kept it 100 by saying, “The truth is incontrovertible. Malice may attack it, ignorance may deride it, but in the end, there it is.”

I’m completely blown away at the ignorance of people that are running with this Kobe/Trayvon situation that refuse to see the truth in Kobe not understanding what the Heat were actually doing. The truth here playboy is that Kobe didn’t understand that the Miami Heat were protesting the fact that George Zimmerman wasn’t INITIALLY arrested after killing the kid. That’s why folks in the black community were OUTRAGED!

It had nothing to do with the facts of the case etc. It had everything to do with seeing another young black kid being gunned down in America and nobody caring. Ole boy didn’t get arrested until after folks started protesting. That's what this whole thing is about playboy. Now did Zimmerman get away with murder? Sure he did! But that's not the issue here! Kobe said that he didn't agree with what the Heat did in protest with the hoodies. So the reality here is that Kobe can’t admit that he didn’t understand the protest in the first place. Then Stephen A. Smith jumped on Arsenio’s show to defend him instead of keepin’ it real and just saying that.

Crazy thing about it playboy, I'm a hustla so any hustla worth his weight in his hustle can see that Stephen A. traded objectivity for access to Kobe. Cuz that dun always wanna tell a boy that he just got off the phone with this cat and that cat. He's a name dropper bruh!

This isn't about black folks jumping off of the deep end for black folks. It's about holding a dun accountable for killing a boy.

I completely agree with both Stephen A. and Kobe that folks shouldn’t just jump to someone's side simply because they're black. However, this wasn’t that. This was a basketball team looking at a kid that looks like most of their children that had been gunned down and the perpetrator wasn’t even arrested. That’s an injustice even before there was a trial regardless of race.

Let’s keep it real or all the way 100, whichever comes 1^st! People kill me always saying that they hate cats like Al Sharpton or Jessie Jackson because they are nothing but fire starters that run into situations because it’s a black situation. Well guess what playboy, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., the man that the world now loves for changing its social consciousness, was the original fire starter. People around the world just celebrated the life of Nelson Mandela and guess what playa? He was a fire starter too. Folks hated both of these cats while they were doing there thing. The very man that the world calls the "Greatest", Muhammad Ali, was hated by white folks when he was in his prime because he wasn't afraid to use his influence to right wrongs perpetrated by white America bruh!

These cats have seen the injustice of people and used their influence to bring national attention to those situations because unfortunately we’ve lived in a country that has shown itself to historically be unjust to black folks.

Duns like Jason Whitlock criticized Al Sharpton and Jessie Jackson for running down to Jena, Louisiana to let the world know of the injustice toward six black teenagers that were initially charged with attempted second-degree murder for beating up a white kid for hanging a noose in the court yard at school. Nobody ever said that the kids shouldn’t be punished both black and white. You do realize that hanging a noose is a hate crime in America right? But the white kid was never charged with a crime! However, attempted second-degree murder charges were excessive for a school yard fight. The charges were later reduced because of the attention that brother Al brought to the case.

The only reason George Zimmerman ever made it to court was because of the attention that duns like the Miami Heat and other black leaders brought to the case.

It’s called using your influence for the good of the community playboy. Everybody needs a guard dog. If it hadn’t been for Martin and Nelson the world would never have paid attention to the plight of black folks in America or in South Africa. If it hadn’t been for the marches and protests during the civil right movement for black people in the 1950 and 60’s, women, gays and lesbians in this world today wouldn’t be able to have the rights they have now. The fire starters have opened the doors to justice for all walks of life regardless of race.

So before you dive on cats like the Miami Heat, Al and Jessie understand what having a voice does for the betterment of other people. And keep this real playboy, every now and then the paper boy is gonna get bit.

When boyz ran to defend Twana Brawely in 1987 and also the Duke Lacrosse scandal with Crystal Mangum in 2006; where both chicks lied and said that they were raped by white men and the joint blew up in everybody’s face the paper boy got bit.

But on some real talk, how many black men and women have been falsely accused and imprisoned for the rest of their lives in this country? How many black folks have been tarred, feather, lynched, murdered by the police and no one has ever been arrested for those slayings? Think about all of the incidents where unarmed cats have been shot 50 to 60 times by the police within the last 10 years and not one policeman has been charged in the killings?

America never would have known about these events had it not been for Brother Al etc. So if the paper boy has to get bit every twenty years or so in order for duns like the Heat, Al, Jessie, Martin and Nelson to keep shedding light on the injustice of people in this country then so be it.

Today’s pro athletes stand on the shoulders of Kareem, Muhammad Ali, Jim Brown, Bill Russell and Willie Davis who stood up against social injustice even in the midst of their playing days. But duns like Jordan, Kobe and many others have just taken advantage of the ole timer’s legacy and simply gotten paid. However, they won’t ever use their influence to come alongside of the very people that have supported them throughout their careers! That’s why I’ve got TALL respect for LeBron because he encouraged his teammates at least turn on the light. Stop me when I start lyin’!

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Tolerance (The REAL reason Jason Collins is still unsigned)

"I gotta be me bruh!"

Jessica Lange, the famous actress, once said, “Acceptance and tolerance and forgiveness, those are life-altering lessons.” The Dalai Lama broke it down like this, “In the practice of tolerance, one’s enemy is the best teacher.” Robert Green Ingersoll, orator of United States during the Golden Age of Freethought, shut the barber shop down when he said, “Tolerance is giving to every other human being every right that you claim for yourself.”

This past April Jason Collins, who had just finished his 12^th season in the NBA decided to come out of the closet and announce that he was gay. The media world blew up and ran down the street yelling that there was finally an active openly gay player in a major American sport. When he did it I was the first to say in my Huggy Lowdown voice, “Waaaaait for it!”

I thought that it was great that he wanted the world to know who he was after all of these years. He’s finally free to be Jason. However, because he wasn’t a major star in the league and was merely playing clean up minutes with the freakin’ Washington Wizards that he essentially ended his career with the announcement. Nobody was going to touch him this summer because his ability to produce on the floor wasn’t worth the distraction that it would cause and I was right.

Several NBA general managers have said according to Ric Bucher of the Bleacher Report that the aversion to Collins isn’t how his sexuality will play out in the locker room but over the media attention and distraction it will create for all of the players.

Its several days before the start of the NBA season and this dun is still waiting on the call that ain’t coming playboy. If he were still in his prime and putting up crazy points he’d be in camp somewhere but as a cat that’s deep in the bench, boyz aren’t touching that media circus with a ten foot pole or the locker room distraction.

Here’s the clown that’s always screaming from the roof top without thinking, “Why can’t a brother be openly gay in an NBA locker room if that’s who he is?” He can be whoever and whatever he wants to be because God loves everybody playa. I’m cool with him being gay but I’m not the problem the locker room is.

Let’s keep it real or all the way 100, whichever comes 1^st! An NBA, NFL or MLB locker room isn’t like the real world homeboy. See the real world is very diverse culturally, mentally, socially and most importantly hormonally.

The locker room is filled with all of the same types of people that are overly aggressive, TESTOSTERONE driven and are all like-minded. That’s why it’s called a professional sports locker room. No other place in the world is made up of that dynamic. In order to become a professional basketball, football or baseball player you have to have an excessive amount of testosterone playboy. Now there are exceptions to that rule because we’d be foolish to believe that Jason Collins is the only cat that’s gay playing ball.

So therefore, you can’t just role up in the spot and announce that you’re gay and expect that cats are gonna be OK with it. Is it right? Absolutely not! Is it the truth? Absolutely! Are there other guys on the low that are gay in locker rooms right now? Absolutely! Are they gonna come out? I doubt it.

Unfortunately, Jason Collins doesn’t live in a world of what should be, he lives in a world of what is and that world is male professional sports. It’s comprised of the same personalities and is driven by one thing, TESTOSTERONE and there’s nothing people can do about that unless they’re going to change the nature (hormones) of the duns that you call your sports heroes and get different personalities to play it. The prototypical gladiator is running on 100% testosterone bruh! He's a man's man! So you’re going to be hard pressed getting his mind to think otherwise. Is it unfortunate? Sure it is! But is it the truth? Absolutely!

See most people that are screaming that these athletes are some jerks and that they’re being intolerant of the gay community are only looking at it from the normal everyday work environment standpoint. It’s not like going to work in the real world because there is so much diversity in thinking and there is always varying levels of estrogen and testosterone floating around the building. In a male sports locker room there’s typically only one level of testosterone floating around and it’s on full blast.

The one thing that boyz never think about is the major difference between the real world and professional sports! At 5pm when it’s time to get off work everybody on your job doesn’t have to get in my Bernie Mac voice, “Bucket Naked” and take a shower together. If that were the case folks would be more tolerant of why boyz think the way they think in the locker room. Most, if not all of these duns are cool with Jason Collins or any other cat being gay because who he sleeps with is of no importance to them. They just aren’t as comfortable getting naked in front of them. That’s real talk!

Here’s my guy on the roof again, “Just because a person is gay doesn’t mean that they’re attracted to every person of the same sex!” You’re absolutely right playboy! But as a straight man if I had to take a shower with other women after work that I thought were fine but weren't interested in, I’d still be checking them out. And I’m quite sure they would be uncomfortable with it.

Why do we have Men and Women's rest rooms in the real world? Because people would be uncomfortable using the same facilities as the opposite sex because of the potential for foolishness that could jump off.

So this has nothing to do with straight athletes being intolerant of a gay athlete. It has everything to do with folks being uncomfortable with the locker room situation and the distraction that it would cause. I guarantee you that if your CEO announced that it was mandatory that all employees, regardless of sexual orientation, shower together at 5pm starting today. It would be some cats putting in their notice today. Tolerance goes both ways bruh! If we can just get to a point in this world where duns would respect the beliefs of ALL people we'd be alright! I'm just sayin'!

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Freeballin'

"Yeah dawg, I gotta get ready for these nachos and keep 'em comin' too!"

George Carlin once said, “Most people work just hard enough not to get fired and get paid just enough money not to quit.” Harold S. Greneen gave it to us like this, “In the business world, everyone is paid in two coins; cash and experience. Take the experience first; the cash will come later.” William F. Buckley Jr. shut the building down when he said this, “I get satisfaction of three kinds. One is creating something, one is being paid for it and one is the feeling that I haven’t just been sitting on my butt all afternoon.”

Well, I’m sure ole Juwan Howard doesn’t feel that way bruh. As a matter of fact, he relishes in sitting on his butt. The Miami Heat just signed this dun to a 10 day contract over the weekend which is a genius move because team chemistry has to be perfect to win another title. Athletes are superstitious and things have to be the same in order for boyz to feel comfortable down the stretch going into the playoffs.

I’m quite sure they’ll extend that joint because this dun can play all positions because somebody has to sit in the CENTER of the bench, GUARD the water and look FORWARD to the next game. Juwan  is an expert at doing that these days bruh! Playing his 19^th season he’s the O.G. that boyz need around to keep everybody’s mind right as they hunt for this next championship. That’s real talk!

Before they signed him Pat Riley told him that he can't change his routine at all. He's got to keep his street clothes on under his warm up, lace his ole school Stacey Adams Knobs up extremely tight to the point that his ankles are turning red and he must keep finding the camera during all timeouts. He has to keep drinking all of the Gatorade on the bench to the point where LeBron is cramping down the stretch because of it. I know y'all remember ole boy cramping bad in the playoffs last year. That was all on Juwan bruh!

He has to order Nachos in the second and third quarters as usual. Also it won’t be necessary for him to shower after the games. He can do that at the crib. Otherwise, they’ll have to deduct that from his check. Pat also told him that it would be mandatory for him to wear that ski mask that he’s successfully worn throughout his career to steal more than $151 million from the NBA! Do you realize that this cat is ranked No. 22 on the highest NBA salaries all-time list?

My boy KG is No.1 at $328 million and I ain't mad at him for it. I ain’t mad at Juwan either. If you can get it, get it! But what's up with Jordan sitting at No.87 at only $90 million? He made $60 million of that the last two years with the Bulls. He got so wrapped up into winning and the Jordan brand that he never realized the Bulls were screwing him the whole time! Note to these young boyz: "Don't go anywhere near Jordan's agent!" Maybe that's why he was so mad during his Hall of Fame speech!

Now I realize that when Mike came out of school in '84 they weren't paying boyz that type of bread. However, if Shaq is No.2 on the list at $298 million and he came out in '92 when Jordan was in his prime! Boyz needed to move some bread around instead of paying Kukoc all that paper to play with the G.O.A.T. but that's Jordan's fault not the Bulls. Did he make a half a billion off of the Jordan brand? Sure he did, but he should made darn near that much off of the NBA too! I'm just sayin'!

On some real talk by signing Juwan that gives the Heat four of the NBA’s top 19 active scoring leaders with Ray Allen (No.5, 23,533), LeBron ( No.8, 20,652) and D.Wade (No.19, 16,109). As of last week Juwan was 29 points ahead of D. Wade sitting at No.18 but that joint is about to plummet because this dun "ain't bout to score nothing" but gas from snacking during the game! It’s all good though, they just needed the O.G. on the sideline. It’s like when Snoop had his uncle on tour with him for years. It just makes the run that much more comfortable.

Like Bill Russell told Uncle Drew in the new Pepsi commercial, “What these young bloods have to understand is that this game has always been and will always be, about buckets!” Well, not for Juwan at this point in his career playboy. It’s about making sure he marks up the floor with his street shoes from the nervous anxiety he’s experiencing during the game. Boyz like LeBron and D. Wade need to see the shoe marks when they come off of the floor to feel comfortable as they make this run.

I told you boyz were superstitious so the last thing they put into the O.G.’s contract was that he had to make sure that every 4 games he’s freeballin’! That means put ABSOLUTELY NOTHING on underneath your warm up! In my Bernie Mac Players Club voice, “Notin’, Notin’!” Just powder up good bruh and everything will be cool! That will help the team tremendously and just don’t it screw up playboy!

Holla At Ya Boy!
Jay Graves
Get @ me on Twitter: @jaygravesreport

Daily Bread

Andre' Rison watched the money burn literally!

The famous author Ernest Hemingway once wrote in the famed novel, The Sun Also Rises, “How did you go bankrupt? Two ways, gradually, then suddenly.” Big Momma would always say that a fool and his money shall soon part ways. Boyz in the street just sit in the cut and watch your desires take over regardless of what they are, drugs, women, booze, clothes, hot cars etc. They always seem to find a way to spend that bread for you regardless of your profession.  

ESPN just aired the new 30 for 30 film “Broke” and it wasn’t surprising to see boyz tell the stories of going through millions of dollars in such a short period of time. They interviewed countless cats from former baseball, basketball and football players and the story was the same, “I went through the bread so fast that it even surprised me!” 

There was an article published in Sports Illustrated in March of 2009 entitled "How (and Why) Athletes Go Broke" . It went on to say that by the time they have been retired for 2 years, 78% of former NFL players have gone bankrupt or are under financial stress because of joblessness or divorce. Also within 5 years of retirement 60% of former NBA players are broke.

Boyz always sit around and laugh at the pro athletes situation but let’s keep it real or all the way 100, whichever comes 1^st! The numbers are even higher for regular working class folks. How many times have you seen a cat get fired or laid off (it’s all semantics) and have to move out of their crib within 30 days because they're in way over their heads? A cat makes $80K and lives in a $350-400K spot.  Another guy makes $50K but drives a 750Li BMW. We all know the chick that makes $40K that's carrying a $900 Gucci bag and rockin' the $800 red bottom joints. Y'all know I'm telling the truth bruh!

How many duns don’t even answer the phone at the crib because bill collectors are chasing them down and they’ve got a job that pays them enough to pay the freaking bill? How many times do you see both men and women at the mall looking for something to wear on Classic or Homecoming Weekend and they haven’t paid their rent or mortgage and the kids book rental is already 60 past due? Stop me when I start lying!

All I’m saying is folks need to stop laughing at the pro athlete for making dumb decisions with money if they’re doing the same thing. People work their entire lives and don’t have a dime when it’s time to retire. How many cats are sitting next to you at work right now that should have retired 10 years ago but can’t?  However, that same clown was laughing at the former athletes telling their stories on 30 for 30.

Unfortunately, most people were never taught how to handle money as a kid and make most of their financial mistakes in their early twenties. When do guys sign their pro contracts? In their early 20's! I praise God that he didn’t put several million dollars into my hands as a 21 year old! Not even at 31! That’s real talk and if you’re honest with yourself you are too.

Could you imagine what you would have done with that type of bread at 21-28 years old even if there were financially savvy people telling you what to do with it? Very few cats would have listened to them at that age. I’m not even gonna to lie, I would have lost my mind with that type of money.

 The old sista’s in the church always said, “Baby, God keeps certain things from you because he’s trying to keep you saved.” The word of God says in Proverbs 30:8-9, “Keep falsehood and lies far from me; give me neither poverty nor riches, but give me only my daily bread. Otherwise, I may have too much and disown you and say, “Who is the Lord?” Or I may become poor and steal and shame the name of God.”

Yeah bruh, I’m cool! Just give me what you think I can handle and I’ll stay in my lane. What I have learned is that the more responsible you are with his bread the more bread he gives you to bake. That's real talk!!

Holla At Ya Boy!

Jay Graves

Get @ me on Twitter: @jaygravesreport

Pookie & Ray Ray

"Huh? I know it was them cuz I didn't let nobody else hold my wallet!" 

Sometimes being in the wrong place at the wrong time can cost you. Growing up in the hood you learn real quick how to look for hints that it's just not a good idea to be here. For example, when you're coming out the club early morning and boyz have been beefin' in the club all night it's time to get into your car and leave immediately. It's just not a good idea to hang around the parking lot talking because you know it's about to pop off. After one bad experience you know what that looks like so you avoid it going forward. It's called wisdom.

Regardless of a person's level of intelligence they possess a certain amount of wisdom because of there life experiences. So if that is the case, why does Pookie & Ray Ray keep getting blamed for everything. Now Vince Young is blaming these cats for spending all of his money too. T.O., Warren Sapp and Allen Iverson blamed them earlier this year for the same thing. What I can't understand is how does Pookie & Ray Ray keep hooking up with boyz with money and beating them out of it. They should be America's Most Wanted with that type of reputation bruh!

Vince is claiming that his former agent Major Adams and a financial planner Ronnie Peoples A.K.A. Pookie & Ray Ray from the Hustler's Firm of Bread, Scratch and Scrilla beat him out of all of his paper. Know what's crazy is that he's alleging that they misappropriated $5.5 million but after signing his rookie contract in 2006 he had $26 million in guaranteed money. Now I realize that nearly half of that goes to Uncle Sam, Pookie's half brother. So unless I can't count or Pookie & Ray Ray are magicians. It's a  family of skunks on the line wearing Gucci driving Bentley's sitting on 24's because that doesn't add up homeboy!

Let's keep it real or all the way 100, whichever comes 1st! This clown is that fool and his money that Big Momma always talked about. According to reports this dun once bought all 120 seats on a Southwest Airlines flight from Nashville to Houston because he wanted to be alone. Then paid a cat $200 to carry his bags. I guess he was having a Prince Akeem Coming to America moment. Maybe he wanted to know what it would be like to use that little bathroom without having to close the door. Remember when your ole man would let you drive when you were a kid and he'd put you on his lap? That was ole Vince in the cockpit with the captain's hat on!

 Bruh, I know I'm good but I can't make this stuff up and it only gets better. Last year he got into an altercation at a strip club because the manager refused to convert $8,000 of his credit card into singles so that he could make it rain. He would also spend more than $5,000 a week at the Cheescake Factory taking teammates out to dinner.

 It's also been reported that he once spent $6,000 at TGI Friday's! Now that's enough bruh! It's impossible to spend that type of bread in Friday's because everything on the menu is $13 or less. He must have gone in there and bought all of the furniture, the sign out front and the strips on the building.

Man I've got to give it up to Pookie & Ray Ray. These boyz are always in the wrong place at the wrong time on a come up. It's like being in the hood all over again because everybody knows who's stealing the money and carjacking boyz but when the police show up nobody's seen a thing. Every time a pro athlete goes broke it's Pookie & Ray Ray's fault but nothing is being done about it and for that reason I'm outraged!

These guys are more of a  minis to society than O-Dog and Cain and I want answers now. They should be arrested on sight or at the very least they should share some of that bread with the rest of us. I mean, I would completely understand if you told me that they bought all 120 seats on the flight because they've got the money to ball out like that. What's crazy is that they keep getting more paper every year because some kid will sign a guaranteed contract that loves to hang out with them. Being in the wrong place at the wrong time seems to have it's advantages, at least for Pookie & Ray Ray.

Holla At Ya Boy!
Jay Graves
Get @ me on Twitter:@jaygravesreport

Social Cowards

"Now you know they're about to eat you alive on Twitter? You know that right?"

The famous German writer and poet Johann Wolfgang von Goethe(1749-1832) once wrote, “The coward threatens when he is safe.” The Roman poet Publius Ovidius Naso(43BC- AD17/18) known to the English speaking world simply as Ovid, gave it to us like this, “To wish for death is a coward’s part.” Boyz in the world of hip hop in the mid ‘90’s called those same coward’s, “studio gangsta’s” and Tupac was probably the most famous.

On Sunday Washington Redskins wide receiver Joshua Morgan let his emotions get the best of him when he got up and threw the football at the most aggravating defensive back in the NFL, Cortland Finnegan, during the closing moments of the game. I know y'all remember when Andre Johnson put a two piece and a biscuit on his plate a couple of seasons ago. So as a result, Morgan was hit with a 15 yard personal foul that essentially moved the Redskins out of field range. Since losing the ball game by 3 points fans have unloaded on his Twitter page this week.

He has received multiple death threats from all of these Twitter gangster’s that wouldn’t say a word to him if they ran into him at the mall. Boyz are real tough when they’re sitting in front of their computers at the crib. I’m just a regular cat and I get clowns cursing me out for saying something bad about their team in my Hot Joints. It always blows me away how folks can be a gangster when they know they’ll never have to man up on the threat.

When I was in college every now and then white kids would ride pass and holler the “N” word out of the car window as my boyz and I would be walking to class and just keep going. You just don’t know how much we wished that their cars would stall at the light. I remember some guys hollering it out of their dorm room window one day and we counted the windows up and over and knocked on their door. When they opened that joint you would have sworn that they saw a ghost or Big Foot or a big foot ghost. Talk about suddenly having amnesia! "Who me? I didn't...." Hilarious!  

Let’s keep it real or all the way 100, whichever comes 1^st! How in the world can you be so wrapped up into a team that you have the audacity to threaten a man’s life because they lost? There are two things in this world that have caused men to be irrational since the beginning of time. They are sports and women.

I hope that the FBI can trace those tweets back to the clowns that sent them and charge them with a crime. At the very least allow Morgan and his boys to count the windows up and over and knock on their doors on live TV. Now that would be funny!

Look people, this is strictly entertainment! Don’t set your life to a freaking football game that human beings are playing. Just like you make mistakes on your job these players will make them on their jobs too. What if somebody threatened your life every time you forgot to put the fries in the bag bruh? Cut these boyz some slack and just sit down and enjoy the game for what it is. Win or lose you still have to go to work on Monday and provide for your family and stop trying to be a computer thug before somebody knocks on your door.

Holla At Ya Boy!

Jay Graves

Get @ me on Twitter: @jaygravesreport

"It Ain't My Fault"

"I don't know what you're talkin' bout playa!"

In March of 2009, Sports Illustrated published an article entitled, "How (And Why) Pro Athletes Go Broke."  It said that by the time they have been retired for two years, 78% of former NFL players have gone bankrupt or are under financial stress because of joblessness or divorce. It also went on to say that within five years of retirement, an estimated 60% of former NBA players are broke. After reading that joint you begin to scratch your head because it simply makes no sense to you.

Then you turn on the radio this past Monday and Tuesday and hear Warren Sapp promoting his new book “Sapp Attack” and you quickly figure out why a boy can make $60 million over the course of his career and lose it all because this dun is completely nuts!!! He doesn’t have a clue out here bruh. If you let ole Warren tell it, it’s everybody else’s fault that he’s broke. He didn’t have anything to do with it.

He didn’t have anything to do with the fact that he fell to the No. 12 spot in the draft when he was coming out of the U. Those multiple failed marijuana tests with one failed cocaine test weren’t real because somebody set him up. He was on some conspiracy type joint that “they” didn’t want to see him drafted early so they made up the failed drug tests. What?

 I guess the fact that he has 6 kids by 4 different women isn’t his fault either.  “What had happened was,” some cat broke into his crib late one night while he was asleep, stole his joint, went on a sex spree with it, brought it back, put it back on and bounced before he woke up. The next thing he knew women and children were knocking at his door looking for child support!  I know Warren! I knew this cat in Baltimore that had the same thing happen to him. It’s the craziest thing I’ve ever seen.

Now if the book is supposed to be a “tell all” memoir of his life then everything is fair game, right? This cat was splitting hairs when guys asked the simplest of questions. Nick and John on SportsRadio 610 in Houston asked him about selling his 240 pairs of Jordan’s and he went off denying that he ever personally sold them. Hey look big boy, whether you sold them joints yourself at the flea market or turned them over to be sold, they were sold bruh.

Let’s keep it real or all the way 100, whichever comes 1^st! In order to be considered a grown man you have to take responsibility for your actions good or bad! What did Big Momma always say? “Whatever’s on your plate you gotta to eat it.”  Stop blaming the world for you being a screw up bruh! It’s basic physics! For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. In other words, every time you push the fire alarm it gonna go off. In hood terms, “Every time you pick a fight you gone find yourself in one and it ain’t gone be fair.” That’s just real talk!

So the next time you read about some cat losing a fortune understand that it had more to do with them not being able to count bruh.  Some cats just love to screw up and blame the world for their mistakes just like ole Warren. So now he’s on to the next interview bumpin’ that Silk The Shocker “It Ain’t My Fault!’  

Holla At Ya Boy!

Jay Graves

Get @ me on Twitter: @jaygravesreport 

"That Silly Rabbit"

"Hey Chadzy Wadzy are you still coming over?"

It should be mandatory for every young cat growing up to spend their Saturday mornings in the barber shop deep in the hood whether they need a hair cut or not. That’s ground zero for getting schooled on how the world works. There’s always a group of old playa’s sitting in the corner playing cards or domino's, sippin’ on something, ready to jump in and spit some knowledge. One of the most profound joints ever spit in the shop came from an old timer puffing on a cigar with lime green gators on when he said, “You’ll never lose women chasing money but you’ll always lose money chasing women!”

Obviously my man Chad Johnson skipped class on that Saturday morning bruh! Chasing that rabbit has cost him his career, his reality TV show and ultimately his marriage. I’ve been telling boyz for years that that silly rabbit has sank ships, started wars and burned the most powerful empires known to man to the ground but they won’t listen.

Ima keep it real or all the way 100, whichever comes 1st! Chad messed up when he hooked up with ole girl in the first place. She was a “Basketball Wife” that didn‘t have a husband bruh! Explain that one to me?  However, she was looking for a sucka and found Ochocinco! C’mon bruh, how did you think it was gonna end?  Really?

The old playa's in the shop always warned you to stay away from aggressive women that love to talk trash. Women that always have their mouths open looking for a fight will always find one. She was the classic hood type to run up on a cat woofin' and would even take a swing on a boy! Y’all know I’m keeping’ it real. You know the type that even if a cat has turned to walk away she’d fire on him in the back or steal on him while he’s trying to explain, “what had happened was!”

Now was Chad wrong for head butting her? ABSOLUTELY! There’s no excuse for that type of behavior at anytime bruh! But do I understand why it happened? Absolutely! They don’t have to show me the police report because I already know that she went at ole boy because that’s her modus operandi. That’s the Latin joint for method of operation. For all you hood dwellers that’s how she gets down bruh!  She’s aggressive and unfortunately she ran into a cat that wasn’t paying attention to the sideline and stepped out of bounds for a minute.

I mean let’s keep 100! They got into an argument because she found a receipt for condoms! So you already know she level 10’d him as she should have. Now this isn’t abnormal for him because he told her on multiple occasions on the Basketball Wives show that he still had other women when they decided to get married. So we’ve got two idiots in the room, right?  But for the sake of foolishness continue to indulge me for a minute, if you will.

If he wasn’t going to be faithful to his wife why waste the time getting married in the first place? Also if she knew that he wasn’t ready to get married why say yes? So what we have here is a classic case of two fools occupying the same space! What happens when we get two fools breathing the same air? We get one fool arrested on a domestic violence charge and the other fool sitting in the hospital bleeding from the forehead. Why, because neither fool has any self control!

"I'm still on the hunt bruh!"

I’m trippin’ because she’s playing this thing out in the media like a violin bruh! She’s saying that she would like for HIM to seek anger management classes for his temper like she doesn’t have the same issues or worse. C’mon bruh, we all watch Basketball Wives and have witnessed her jumping over tables and throwing full champagne bottles at chicks heads.

If we’re gonna talk let’s keep it real on both sides of the fence! Just like when Chris Brown jumped on Rihanna. It was reported that she started whaling on him in the ride as he was driving. So unfortunately she caught a 10 piece and a biscuit in the drive thru. Was he wrong? ABSOLUTELY! However, not only should parents teach their little boys not to hit but these little girls need to be taught the same thing. You don’t get a pass because guys aren’t "supposed" to hit you because not every little boy got that lesson or will adhere to it. That’s real talk! I’ve got a baby girl and I’ve taught her that to hit boys is unacceptable because some of these cats don‘t mind serving dinner and going to jail. Now you’re left looking like a bobble head because you couldn’t control YOUR emotions.

Now ole girl has filed for divorce because she no longer has any use for him anymore because he’s unemployed, the TV show’s been cancelled and she already has his baby! Y’all know I’m driving off with my windows down bumpin’ that Kanye West when I say this, “I ain’t sayin’ she a gold digga but she ain’t messin’ wit no broke broke broke…!”  She’s on the hunt for the next clown that’s just graduated from the Elmer Fudd School of Rabbit hunting.

Holla At Ya Boy!
Jay Graves
Get @ me on Twitter: @jaygravesreport

The Dragon!

Ima make this team, then Ima act a fool!

There is an old colloquialism that says, "People don't change times do!" and the older I get I see it play out all of the time. It doesn’t matter how much time passes if a person doesn’t have a serious meeting with Jesus you can bet that they’re still on whatever they were on when you last saw them. Believe that homeboy! If they were lying and running game 4 years ago. They’re still lying and running game bruh! If they were being obnoxious and crass ten years ago there’s a good chance they’re still the same person.

Earlier this week T.O. signed with the Seattle Seahawks and reported to camp on Wednesday. He’s saying all of the right things for now and it even seems genuine to some degree but I’ve been around a long time bruh so I ain't buying what he's selling. Here’s what T.O. had to say after his first NFL practice since December of 2010.

"It's all about for me now being part of something rather than being the center of something. I understand a lot of the media is here because of me and again, I have changed in a lot of ways. A lot of things have occurred in the last two years, and I've had a lot of time to think about things and put things in perspective and I just want to move forward and leave all the things that happened five to 10 years ago behind me. That's where I am mentally."

Now everybody that believes that stand on your head because I‘ve got some palm trees and coconuts to sell you imported straight from G.I.! As soon as ole boy makes the squad or God forbid he cracks the starting line up the dragon is coming out. At this point nothings guaranteed so he’s on hustle mode to make the team. He’s a jerk but he ain’t stupid. He’s thinking about all of the cats that he owes especially all of them baby momma’s sitting in the cut waiting on that child support check. I wouldn’t be surprised if they weren’t at practice making sure he’s working.

Let’s keep it real or all the way 100, whichever comes 1st! Y’all know as soon as T.O. makes the squad and gets into the starting line up its going to be on and poppin’. I mean he did just run a 4.45 forty at 38 years old bruh. He’s still in great shape and probably better than any wide out on the roster. They’re working with Sydney Rice who’s just coming off of multiple surgeries and clowns like Golden Tate the shoplifter. I know y’all remember when ole boy broke into a donut shop in Seattle in the middle of the night that was located in the same building he was living in at the time to cure a case of the munchies?  I can’t make this stuff up bruh. T.O. is competing with the 5’10” donut snatcher.

Both of those receivers are little guys compared to T.O. so by having a big body receiver on the roster means a lot to the Seahawks. For that reason alone they’re going to try and feed the rock to him and he knows that. So in my T.O. voice, “Get your popcorn ready!”

 As soon as Matt Flynn doesn’t get the ball to him the dragon will come out and it’s going to be made for T.V. drama. If the Seahawks were smart they would have invited Hard knocks to film training camp because this is going to be worth the price of admission bruh. T.O. back on the field trying to be humble? C’mon bruh! I can’t wait for the drama to begin because it’s all entertainment right? This joint will be better than the Real Housewives of Atlanta, Basketball Wives and Love and Hip Hop all rolled into one. This will be the remix of "Enter The Dragon!" starring T.O.!

Holla At Ya Boy!
Jay Graves
Get @ me on Twitter: @jaygravesreport

"Court Side Seats"

"I got the wish factor on this seat bruh!"

Everybody dreams of having the best seats in the house. However, it costs money to walk in the joint with the wish factor. "I wish a boy would be in my seat bruh!" It doesn't matter how late you are to the game as long as you paid for the seat it'll still be there waiting for you. All of the ballers love sitting court side, ring side or on the fifty yard line. In sports terms it's the place to be. It's respect from the other cats watching you go to your seat from the nose bleed joints. However, don't you dare march in to one of those joints and you haven't paid for it. You might just catch a two piece and a biscuit on your way out.

Well that's what happened to former NFL All-Pro wide receiver Andre Rison. He's been sneaking in the game trying to sit court side without paying for his seat. He was sentenced by a federal district court in Phoenix on Monday to five years probation and fined more than $300,000 in restitution for not paying child support. That buster has been trying to sit in the baller's section without having a ticket to the game.

 I'm always blown away by the amount of cats that complain about how their child's mother won't let them see their kids. Let's keep it real or all the way 100, whichever comes 1st!  I don't ever use the term "baby momma" because it's ignorant and disrespectful. It became popular when B Rock and the Bizz released the joint "My Babby Daddy" in 1997! It was ignorant then and is even more ignorant today. I had to get that one off of my chest, homeboy! Now I realize that there are some crazy women out there and many times they CAN be a problem. However, quit blaming them for not being in your child’s life if you haven’t done all that you can do to help raise them. I call it like I see it. Stop acting like you don’t have children just because they don’t live with you. That's real talk!

Start paying to get in the game every month and spend time with them. Even though you don’t see your children every day they're still growing. I can hear these cats in the background saying, “Child support is not my admission ticket”. Sure, it’s not your admission ticket but it always costs money to go to the game. Yeah, you can see the game at the sports bar but it's not the same as being there. How can you look your child in the face when you haven’t paid to get in bruh? That’s like jumping the fence and sneaking in. It’s stealing bruh!

Do you think that they're just giving court side tickets away bruh? It costs money to sit in them joints. Just like it costs money to pop bottles in the club, wear designer clothes and drive fast cars, take your woman/wife on dates, put rims on your whip, go to the NBA All-Star game or the Essence Music festival, take vacations, gamble or to go the strip club. C’mon bruh! There isn't a judge in America that won’t tell you to kick rocks. Even the word of Gods says, “A man that doesn’t take care of his family is worse than a non-believer“, Timothy 5:8.

"You already know you can't sit here!"

It costs money to have a say in what goes on in your child’s life but as long as you keep using stupid excuses like child support shouldn’t be my admission ticket you'll be watching the game from the sports bar. I wouldn’t let you see my kids either if you didn’t contribute to their well-being. Handle your business and go to court when some trifling woman tries to keep you from getting in the game when you ARE paying for that seat court side.

At that point, a woman can’t tell you that you can’t have access to your child or children because she would be in contempt of court. I still hear duns standing outside the stadium saying, “Man it cost money to get a lawyer or to go to court”. Man it costs money to be grown! When you start having children you need to understand that it’s a constant sacrifice to raise them. So stop living like you don’t have mouths to feed. You want to sit next to Spike Lee and Jack Nicholson for free? You keep trying to reserve a seat but refuse to pay for the joint and then you're upset when some other cat is willing to put the bread on the table and sit down.

If you want to sit in the luxury box they cost money, and all different types of money too. Money to pay book rental, money for school clothes, money for registration fees, field trip money, before and after care money, health insurance money, momma can I go money, McDonald's Happy Meals money, I need new shoes money, underwear money, groceries money, lights and gas money, mortgage money or just because it cost money to live money bruh.Who do you think pays for that? Not only does it cost money to get into the game but think about the time that you’re missing in teaching and nurturing your kids. One thing is for certain, if you ignore them while they're growing up they'll ignore you while they're grown. Now get out of my seat, CLOWN!

 Holla At Ya Boy!
Jay Graves
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"Hood Rich"

"I should have listened to the more experienced cats when I had a chance!"

Everyone can remember Allen Iverson's infamous rant; "We're sitting here, and I'm supposed to be the franchise player, and we're talking about practice. I mean listen, we're sitting here talking about practice, not a game, not a game, not a game, but we're talking about practice".  What Iverson and so many others like him never realize is that practice is more important than the game itself.

The game's outcome is only a bi-product of what is accomplished during practice. Whatever we spend most of our time doing, we become experts at it. I went to see Les Brown, the motivational speaker, some years ago and he said something that I'll never forget. He said, "Where ever you end up twenty years from now, you've made an appointment to be there twenty years ago".  So practice is of paramount importance. The question is, what are you practicing?

For years Allen Iverson practiced acting and looking like a thug. He was the first guy in the league to rock tattoos in heavy rotation especially on his hands and neck. He was the one that led David Stern to institute the dress code policy in the NBA. He was the cat that would show up to the game dressed like he was straight off of the block during a time when guys like Jordan and Magic were all business and would be "suited and booted." Nobody could wear a suit better than Air Jordan! Straight up!

All the young cats just loved the fact that A.I. was reppin' the hood and the ladies got into to it too. All you heard was that Iverson was so fine and how they loved that look. I would constantly remind folks that at some point you've got to grow up and whatever you practice would become the norm. Psychologists believe that it takes 21 days to form a habit. Once the habit is formed it's even more difficult to change it. When you rep the hood for so long you can't escape it regardless of where you live.

Now ole boy is broke after making more than $153 million during his playing career. The sad part about it is that he's represented the hood for so long acting and looking the part that he can't get a job if he wanted to. If Barkley can talk basketball on TV anybody can bruh. Now he's very entertaining and he's won all types of awards as a result of it. However, he was the bad guy of basketball for years but he was able to work after retiring because he didn't come across as a street thug. Your reputation precedes you!

 Boyz go broke everyday but are able to find lucrative jobs after the game. I mean Chris Weber is even doing color commentary bruh! Surely with his charisma, Iverson could find a job in the game? Unfortunately, his rep is like having a felony! Nobody wants to be associated with what looks or smells like a thug. Tupac had all of these cats fooled as I explained in the Hot Joint entitled "The Tupac Influence".

Like I always say, "At some point you gotta grow up! All of those tattoos on your neck and hands ain't gonna be sexy when you're pushing 40 and beyond bruh! At some point you gotta look and act like a grown man. Not some young  cat on the block." Father Time is hard but he's fair!

Remember, "We're sitting here talking about practice, not a game, not a game, not a game, but we're talking about practice". I hope these young boyz in the league take a look at what's happening with Iverson and pull a Fifty Cents and remove them joints and clean up their image while they still have time. I was watching the Clipper/Grizzlies game yesterday and Kenyon Martin looks like he just stepped out of the projects and he's been in the league for years. For his sake, I hope that he's saved his bread. If so, he can look any kind of way he wants.

 I've always said that the hood is the best place in the world to be FROM because if you can survive there you can make it anywhere. If you use the survival skills learned in the hood and adapt to the world you're in you can become great. Otherwise, you'll become a fish out of water and never fulfill your potential. Believe me young blood as cool and fine as the ladies tell you that you are when you're money disappears you're just another street thug to them. So if you're cool reverting back to the ghetto an being hood rich have at it.

Holla At Ya Boy!
Jay Graves
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Why Pro Athletes Shouldn't Get Married

"Bad move bruh!"

“Young, Rich and Dangerous” was the title of the final CD of the famed hip hop rap group Kriss Kross in 1996. It should however, be the soundtrack of your life, at least for now. You’re 25 years old and you’ve just signed a brand new 5 year deal worth more than 80 million dollars. The “Young and Rich” part you get, but “Dangerous” you don’t agree with, right? See, you’re not the one that’s necessarily dangerous, however the world that you’ve just been thrown into is bruh. Look into my crystal ball young blood. You still can’t wrap your mind around just how much 80 million dollars is, but you have a pretty good idea of what you can do with it or get in to with it. Just about anything you can imagine.

See money is like alcohol it doesn’t change you, it just brings out what’s already inside of you. Check this out, in 2005 B.M., that’s “Before Money”, you were the big man on campus (BMOC) with a girlfriend. However, the coeds just kept finding their way into your dorm room uninvited. That’s what happens when you’re the most popular guy on campus with the potential of becoming a multi-millioniare. Now that you’ve got the money and fame the campus just got bigger. You travel from coast to coast playing ball and in every night club you hit, every guy in the place wants to be YOU and every woman in the place wants be with YOU.

Now that’s a drug all to itself and it’s easy to overdose on that combination. I’m not saying that all men cheat, what I am saying is that all men are human. So if you’re away from home 30 out of the 52 weeks of the year for sometimes weeks at a time, with women doing everything they can to get at you, that becomes a bit too much to handle bruh. I’m not talking about your everyday women. I’m talking about cosmetic 10’s, the movie star types that follow you around like a puppy.

See we can’t compare a pro athlete to the normal working class family man because he has to typically initiate contact with a woman. So he has to at least be mischievous enough to play with the matches. However,  a pro ball player is running through the forest while it’s already on fire. Women are constantly following these guys from city to city and many times even making their way into hotel rooms uninvited. Sound familiar? Now I’m not saying that all women are groupies, I am saying that all of the women that are constantly in your face are. It’s like being a drug addict and saying that you’re going over to the drug house just to play dominos. C'mon bruh! Somebody help me out here!

Let’s face it, some lifestyles aren’t conducive to having monogamous relationships. I don’t care if she was your college or high school sweetheart. When you guys met you were broke and women weren’t showing up at all hours of the night uninvited and UNDRESSED. Let’s keep it real or all the way 100 which ever comes first. The woman that you decide to marry knows full well that she isn’t the only one. So who’s fooling who, especially if she met you in 2012 A.M. (After Money).

 Even if you think that you're love her you aren’t mature enough to handle what’s coming your way on a daily basis. I just think that you should wait until after you retire when you’re settled enough to be someone’s husband and father. Your lifestyle will have changed by then and you won’t be in the hot spots all over the country every night. By the time you’re in your late 30’s or early 40’s you’ll be ready to settle down.

There’s no rule to say that you have to marry young like Kobe did. If you wait you’ll  meet women that should be well into their careers by then.  Ladies that have more to lose than some young groupie trying to get pregnant and paid at your expense. Now don’t get me wrong, it’s some old groupies out there too but when you’re older you’ll at least be able to recognize the game bruh. That'll at least keep you from getting caught up at the minimum.

 I strongly believe in the full sanctity of marriage and it should never be disrespected. So before you try to join my frat and cross those burning sand’s bruh, you’ll have to get rid of all the girlfriends and be able to keep your butt at home. However, in the mist of being a professional athlete that’s virtually impossible right now. So your application to the Frat has been denied bruh. Holla at the grad chapter when you're ready.

Holla At Ya Boy!
Jay Graves
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