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If you want to get black women fired up bring up the topic of why black athletes date or marry white women. For years I've just sat in the cut and watched the whole scenario play out. As a student-athlete for a short period of time some 28 years ago at Purdue University (football walk-on spring 1987), I watched as many of my teammates went through school and some were eventually drafted and left with white women. Even after I transferred to Indiana University I watched it play out the same way playa.
Now accordin' to the sisters, they’ll say that these guys always wait until they get rich and go get a white girl. Well…ladies that isn’t the case at all. Quite frankly, white girls have simply got more game than sisters when it comes to sniffin' bread before the bread is even made.
Let's keep it real or all the way 100, whichever comes 1st! If you don't believe me sit back and I’ll run the game to you. For the sake of this discussion we'll call the white girl "Becky" and we'll call the sister "Lynnette". A five star recruit named "Elijah" enrolls as a freshmen still wet behind the ears and doesn't know anybody. As he's walkin' to class for the first time, he see's Lynnette and speaks to her just bein' friendly. She completely ignores him and keeps walkin' because she thinks he’s tryin' to holler at her. As he continues on down the street he runs into Becky and speaks to her the same way he spoke to Lynnette. However, Becky speaks and holds an entire conversation with him as they walk to class together.
Some time goes by and Becky see's that he's havin' trouble jugglin' both class and football so she offers to help him write his papers. Lynnette is witnessing the same thing but her response is "I've got my own thing to worry about." That's completely understandable but I'm just tellin' the story playboy.
Over time Becky notices that Elijah doesn't have time between football and school to wash his clothes on the weekends. So she volunteers to do his laundry for him. Lynnette says, "Why should I do his laundry, nobody is goin' to help me with mine?" Becky is also buyin' snacks when the cafe is closed as well. Don't get mad at me, again I'm just tellin' you what I‘ve seen happen playa.
A couple of years go by and Elijah and Becky become a solid couple. Now remember he's been flyin' under the radar because durin' his freshman year he didn't play because he was red shirted (practice squad) and Lynnette still doesn‘t know his name. Durin' his sophomore year he finally get’s on the field. However, by his junior year, he's a stud and is all over ESPN’s Sports Center and sports talk radio at this point. Now all of the draft experts are talkin' about him goin' in the first round of the upcomin' NFL draft.
Now all of a sudden he catches Lynnette's eye but she's late to the party because Becky's been puttin' in work for 3 years. He decides to leave school early because the money is too good to pass up. So on draft day he's sittin' in the green room waitin' for his name to be called and guess who’s with his family? Becky! The same Becky that helped write his papers, do his laundry, put gas in his car, buy him pizza after the games and oh yeah, spoke to him on campus when nobody knew his name three short years ago.
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You let Becky in the game not Elijah. He could've cared less what color she was. He just wanted someone to believe in him and take an interest in his potential. Stop waitin' until the forth quarter to try to make a come back when you’re down 3 touchdowns with 1:30 left. Is this the case in every situation? No, but I can tell you that this is how the game is kicked off 90 percent of the time on college campuses. Of course you've got duns that know how to kick game once a boy is already rich too. Ole girl swooped up Jordan, married him and knocked out twins with the quickness for security purposes bruh! I know y'all saw that power move? She doesn't need the whole billion playboy. She just needs a piece of it. I'm just sayin'!
At the end of the day Becky keeps dancin' in the end zone and Lynnette keeps havin' to buy a ticket to the game after it’s already started. I know that money is sexy but potential is even more intoxicatin'! Now… was Becky runnin' game too? I’m quite sure she was! Now what's my point sistas? Don't have the nerve to get mad every time you see a rich brother that plays or played ball with a white girl and you cared NOT to know his name when he was broke! Because 9 out of 10 times she peeped game when you didn't.
See every sista wants to be Michelle Obama but don't wanna do what she did! She got with Barack when he was the freakin' intern at her office playa. She didn't wait to see if he was gonna be president. She saw his potential not his bread. Now she's the First Lady! There are a lot of women out here that can learn something from Michelle Obama instead of lookin' for things to critize her about. I'm just sayin'. Stop me when I start lyin'!
Playa-saurus:
1) Dun: noun - the person in question, dude, guy, girl. etc. It's whoever I'm talkin' about bruh and it's non-gender specific.
2) Peeped game: verb - to see something that others can't see.
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Now, let’s be fair and tell it from Lynnette’s POV
ReplyDeleteYes, Elijah and Lynette may have come from the same or a similar neighborhood. They both are fortunate enough to get into IU.
Elijah is walking across campus and sees Lynette. He speaks. She doesn’t, but later Becky does. What if Lynnette was preoccupied with trying to figure out how to pay for IU? He was fortunate to get an athletic scholarship. Lynette may have to get a loan, partial scholarship, or do work study. Maybe earlier, Elijah acted brand new once he arrived on campus and forgot about this home-girl Lynette.
Elijah is having difficulties jugglin both class and football. Becky is there to write and type his papers. Lynnette got her own thing to worry about. What if Lynnette is struggling in school? Did he ask Lynnette for assistance?
Now, let’s talk about his dirty clothes and need for snacks. We already established that Elijah and Lynnette may have come from similar backgrounds. What if Lynnette was washing her clothes by hand because she did not have the money for laundry? Did Lynnette and her girlfriend chip in on a load of clothes, stuff the machine full, and hope for the best? There were times when we took extra chips, cookies, and other munchies from the cafeteria because we did not have money to buy snacks. I cannot begin to count the number of times my girls and I had just enough money to buy a small pizza for six people to share.
Becky on the other hand may be getting money from her parents to fund her education and living expenses. Just like the girl who parents gave her $90k for her college education. She used it for tuition, books, living expenses, mani/pedicures, trips to Europe and Miami for Spring break.
How many Lynnettes do you know have the luxury of having parents forking over $90K for college?
Let me continue...
ReplyDeleteHere are the things you failed to mention.
Elijahs come from neighborhoods where they see and date the Lynnettes. Once they get into college or an university, Elijahs lose their minds and act as if they do not know the Lynnettes because they are the new recruit and big man on campus.
There are a greater portion of Beckys than Lynnettes. So chances are Elijah will see more Beckys everywhere he goes on campus.
The Beckys often times may look more attractive because they usually have the cars, the clothes, shoes, money to assist with their upkeep. And, she is willing Elijah drive her Corvette, Mercedes, BMW, and SUV. He will drive pass the Lynnettes who are walking or waiting on the bus.
The Beckys are usually legacies of the school because her parents attended there. She will be invited to more events, like alumni functions where they parade athletes around. Again, this increases her chances of meeting the Elijahs. What he doesn’t realize or care to notice is that the Lynnettes are at the same events. She is there serving food as part of a work/study program.
The Beckys probably have the extra money and time to attend the games, social events, hang out on the quad or stadium hoping to meet Elijahs. However, the Lynnettes were raised to go to school, get an education, get a job, and take care of yourself. See, both mother and father taught her that lesson. She may be working full-time to afford her education. You may have looked down on her as she serve you food in the cafeteria.
I think the biggest problem I have is that you did not address whether or not Lynnette needed help in school. Everything you presented was what Elijah needed. Did Lynnette not have any needs or wants? Did he stop to ask how she was doing in school? What about her school work?
Once a Becky sets her eyes on a potential Black athlete, it is like having a monkey on your back. In actually, she wore Elijah down and he caved. How is it that the Beckys are always around the Elijahs willing to wash his clothes, buy his food, and write/type his papers?
So let’s not just condemn the Lynnettes for not getting the Elijahs. The Elijahs paid a significant part in that decision too. Unfortunately, Elijah was too busy playing a game instead of recognizing a game was being played on him.
Deuces!
An interesting "alternate theory" in the comment of 7-22-15. Well thought out and presented.You see Becky as a rich BMW driving legacy student but she might just be a middle class backpack wearing bike riding nice girl.
ReplyDeleteWith an "emphasis" on nice girl....lol
ReplyDeleteThe real question is is it game? The real question is a what point does both sides look at the long term ramifications of interracial dating and it's impact on society. We have to be more knowledgeable and understanding of different ethnic groups in order to have more successful interracial relationships. The reality is that it may start out as game but it leads to separation at the end of the day. The game starts within ones self.
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