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| "Who's Got More Game?" |
Now according to the sister’s, they’ll say that these guys always wait until they get rich and go get a white girl. Well…ladies that isn’t the case at all. Quite frankly, white girls have simply got more game than sisters in that department.
If you don't believe me sit back and I’ll run the game to you. For the sake of this discussion we'll call the white girl "Becky" and we'll call the sister "Lynnette". A five star recruit named "Elijah" enrolls as a freshmen still wet behind the ears and doesn't know anybody. As he's walking to class for the first time, he see's Lynnette and speaks to her just being friendly. She completely ignores him and keeps walking because she thinks he’s trying to holler at her. As he continues on down the street he runs into Becky and speaks to her the same way he spoke to Lynnette. However, Becky speaks and holds an entire conversation with him as they walk to class together.
Some time goes by and Becky see's that he's having trouble juggling both class and football so she offers to help him write his papers. Lynnette witness's the same thing but her response is "I've got my own thing to worry about." That's completely understandable but I'm just telling the story.
Over time Becky notices that Elijah doesn't have time between football and school to wash his clothes on the weekends. So she volunteers to do his laundry for him. Lynnette says, "Why should I do his laundry, nobody is going to help me with mine?" Becky is also buying snacks when the cafe is closed as well. Don't get mad at me, again I'm just telling you what I‘ve seen happen.
A couple of years go by and Elijah and Becky become a solid couple. Now remember he's been flying under the radar because during his freshman year he didn't play because he was red shirted ( practice squad ) and Lynnette still doesn‘t know his name. During his sophomore year he finally get’s on the field. However, by his junior year, he's a stud and is all over ESPN’s Sports Center and sports talk radio at this point. Now all of the draft experts are talking about him going in the first round of the NFL draft.
Now all of a sudden he catches Lynnette's eye but she's late to the game because Becky's been putting in work for 3 years. He decides to leave school early because the money is too good to pass up. So on draft day he's sitting in the green room waiting for his name to be called and guess who’s with his family? Becky! The same Becky that helped write his papers, do his laundry, put gas in his car, buy him pizza after the games and oh yeah, spoke to him on campus when nobody knew his name three short years ago.
What’s the lesson in this ladies? Always look for the potential in the young guy and not put him in the dumb jock category and ignore him when he speaks. Lynnette if you had just said hello who knows where that friendship could’ve gone. Keep in mind that 90% of the Elijah's on campus are from the same neighborhood you're from. So they are more comfortable talking to you than Becky, initially.
You let Becky in the game not Elijah. He could've cared less what color she was. He just wanted someone to believe in him and take an interest in his potential. Stop waiting until the forth quarter to try to make a come back when you’re down 3 touchdowns with 1:30 left. Is this the case in every situation? No, but I can tell you that this is how the game is kicked off.
At the end of the day Becky keeps dancing in the end zone and Lynnette keeps having to buy a ticket to the game after it’s already started. I know that money is sexy but potential is even more intoxicating! Now… was Becky running game too? I’m quite sure she was!
Holla At Ya Boy!
Jay Graves
Twitter: @jaygravesreport
Interesting...and true. Very true.
ReplyDeleteJay you real but tell the other of the story how they jump in bed the first night. Let's keep it real. You still the best runningback in the Graves family.
ReplyDeleteDats real big bruh! It goes for the business man as well.. If you go to your local joint (Becky) will approach you... Or speak.. While (Lynette) wants to know when you're gonna buy her a drink.. Lol
ReplyDeleteBoomer Sooner
Leading the crusade for white women who marry black athletes. Wow. They are easier. Who doesn't want to take the easy route.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately, MY BROTHER, it's not a game, but the Lynette's of the world haven't figured that out yet. As a result, the sisters call us sell-outs. Men and women both have to be willing when they meet that "special" person to put in the work. Relationships are like - 3 a days - u remember..morning practice; weight room in the afternoon; and evening practice!! It's tough, but the one who has the strength and endurance to perservere will get to share in the multi-million dollar contract or happily ever after. Some Beckys, you're right, just know how to play the game. Catch up sistas.
ReplyDeleteO-town
Becky will do things Lynnette wont, I'm just saying
ReplyDeleteSad but true
ReplyDeleteHey Jay...you hit the nail on the head bruh!! I have been saying this for years!!!! A little patience and caring a little goes a long way.....By the way ...its no mistake two brothers from Gary In / Roosevelt.......think the same. Continue to keep it real..
ReplyDeleteLynette wants to know whats in it for her,what he drives,and whats his affiliation. Whereas, Becky wants to know, how can I HELP YOU and fill that void in his life.I attended college in south Florida and if you weren't selling drugs, you couldn't get the average AMERICAN black women. So, me and my boys dated WHITE GIRL and REIGNERS, who took care of us.
ReplyDeleteIm just gonna add for those who say white women are easier and thats why bruhs date them. Im call ya card on this one. Sista are equally as easy. Lets be honest loose morals come in all colors. The only difference is are a lot more easy once they know your status. White girls are equal oppurtunity easy. So....if ima make a decision ima go with the easy chick that did my laundry. And in the words of the big homie...HOLA AT YA BOY! --Jerrell W
ReplyDeleteWhoa, I'm completely floored by how 1 dimensional and oversimplified you make everyone in this scenario look: the women (black and white) and the black guy.
ReplyDelete1. You make the guy look like a charity case. He needs someone to 'help him' do his laundry, his homework, coddle him, etc. plus, you make him sound like an unintelligent athelete who can't hack it in college. Really? That's not fair to any young man, and even if it is realistic, it is far from empowering.
2. The white girl is cast as the gullible, yet sacrificing savior, who wins in the end. Boy if that doesn't play to 'pedestal' stereotypes.. I agree that it make perfect sense for a guy to date a girl who's nice to him, encouraging and supportive. It does suck to be treated badly (by anyone) and I don't faults guy for passing on a mean-mugging woman who only notices you AFTER you've blown up, BUT
3. The black girl is the stereotypical mean, wanna-be gold digger thirsty chick who's late to the party? C'mon. So trite.
And why is any of this about why sisters lose out? Folks date who treat them well. I'm really disappointed by all of the undertones of gamery and using that you reference. Most women won't date a professional athlete. That's just the numbers. And it doesnt matter if a woman dated or passed on a ball player before he blew up. Pick who treats you well, not who uses you up (men and women).
If a woman is crying cause she should have given a brother play because he blew up, then she's shallow and deserved to be skipped. If a man passed on a woman who was mean and curt, then he chose well also.
But let's not pretend like this is sage advice you're giving people.
It's the opposite of empowering. And it hurts to see your readers co-sign on this.