Momma's Boy

"Man ya'll go get my momma!"

In September of 2008 Vince Young became distraught because the Titan fans booed him after two interceptions during a game against Jacksonville. Later that evening he left home with a gun, according to published reports, and didn’t take his cell phone with him. His mother became worried and later called police and everything got fuzzy from there.

 On Sunday, he injured his throwing hand and was benched because head coach Jeff Fischer was concerned about his ability to control the ball. He wasn’t allowed back into the game for that reason and they eventually lost. While leaving the field Vince threw half of his uniform into the stands and stormed out of the locker room during the team post-game meeting even after he’d been told not to leave.

See the most dangerous man in the world is a man that isn’t afraid of anyone. A man that hasn’t been taught to respect authority and that quite frankly isn’t afraid of anyone at home. There are certain people at home that over the years we’ve been conditioned to be afraid of, like big momma(grandma), our mothers, uncles, coaches and most importantly, our fathers. As we get older that fear turns into respect for those back home.

 When a man respects his father more than anybody he begins to make better decisions as he grows into manhood because subconsciously he’s always afraid of what dad may say. Now dad can be any number of men in a child’s life; his uncles , coaches, and mentors. I can often tell when a man has been raised by a man by the decisions he makes as an adult.

Now there are plenty of men that weren’t raised by their biological fathers but other men have come along side of them during the maturation process. There has to be a strong male influence in a boys life because a mother can’t teach a boy how to become a man. We’ve heard so often that Vince Young was raised by his mother, grandmother and sisters. After a certain age women don’t intimidate young men. It’s evident that Vince was so talented as a child that no one including his coaches ever strongly corrected him whenever he got out of line, whether it was on or off of the field.

 Now because of that he’s been crippled as an adult. He makes emotional decisions that will and have already cost him both personally and professionally. After this latest stunt he’s been stripped of his starting job and who knows where this will land him. A real man understands that he’s got to bite his tongue sometimes to get where he needs to go in life. It’s not always going to go your way. You won’t always agree with your boss but you’ve got to respect his or her position.


Men, what do we learn from episodes like this? Raise your own children! Don’t let your kids grow up without you. You need to understand this: children can be like weeds, they’ll grow tall even if you don’t water and nurture them; but they won’t be worth a damn. Stop letting your children just get older. If you don’t pour anything into them they’ll become adults that have nothing to draw from. So therefore, they’ll continue to make bad emotional decisions like Vince Young. A friend of mine once told me that life is a thinking man’s game. How can our child learn to think unless we teach them. Life is basic physics, for every action there is an equal but opposite reaction.

Holla At Ya Boy!
Jay Graves
Twitter: @jaygravesreport