Basketball Wives?

"How about calling it Basketball Wife and the Gold Diggers"

Shaquille O’Neal’s ex-wife, Shaunie, is the executive producer of the very popular show on VH-1 called “Basketball Wives”. Now it’s well into its second season and seems to be doing very well. I’ve got serious problems with this show because of the title. First of all, there is only one married woman on the show. Everyone else, including Shaunie, is either an ex-wife or an ex-girlfriend or second girlfriend of some current or former professional basketball player.

I don’t really care that they are who they are, but don’t call it “Basketball Wives”. Call it “Basketball Ex’s” or “Basketball Jump Offs” or “Basketball Gold Diggers” or something but not wives. It’s insulting to those women that are truly wives or those that aspire to become someone’s wife. There are young women watching this show that may have no clue of what marriage is all about or that may have grown up in a dysfunctional family that may be looking for answers on having a functional relationship with a man.

From the word go its ignorant. These women care nothing about themselves or their children because if they did, they wouldn’t be exploiting the fact that they were involved with a pro athlete on national television. Their kids have to go to school and deal with their classmates and if kids are anything like they were when I was coming up, they’re in trouble. We talked about your mother just because and we didn’t have evidence of them being wild and out of control. We just made things up. So I know that the children of these women are fighting everyday at school. They don’t have a choice at this point. You can’t let someone talk about your mother, regardless if she’s an idiot.

The other big problem I have is with Jennifer, who is married to Eric Williams, she’s keeping the wrong company. The biggest mistake a woman can make is to hang out with a bunch of single or divorced women and get marital advice from them. Those women can’t give you advice about your marriage because they aren’t. Misery loves company! Why do you think that they hang out together? If you want to get marital advice you’ve got to get it from Godly married people. Not someone that doesn’t understands the sanctity of it. What kind of advice does she think those ladies are going to give her? Last season I saw an episode where all of the ladies were encouraging Jennifer to divorce her husband. That’s not something that other people have the right to do. It was easy for them to give that advice because very few of them had ever been married. They were just the “baby momma” or side hustle for some guy.

The whole situation is a result of women with low self-esteem. It’s so important for parents to love their sons and daughters and show them how precious they truly are. If we teach our children how to be husbands and wives by example we can save them from going through this type of foolishness. Our sons would learn from their fathers how to treat their wives and our baby girls will know what types of men to choose as husbands as a results of watching their parents love each other, even during times of difficulty. She won’t go out looking for some guy that has a million dollar contract for the purpose of being rich and more than likely, ending up being miserable.















Jay Graves
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